As an employee you may get what you perceive as a lot of negative feedback; that criticism may tell you what doesn’t work for certain niche jobs, but it doesn’t have to dictate your entire personality. It also doesn’t have to mean that you can’t succeed despite those “flaws.”
Single-mindedness is often billed in customer service jobs as an inability to multitask. You may also be called obsessive. As some of the most successful creative geniuses or entrepreneurs come up with some of their best ideas because of obsessive thinking. Focusing on a problem continually until it is solved isn’t always the best way to get that solution, but if that’s how your mind works, then you can embrace it. If you’re single-minded about something, you’re going to work on it until it gets done, elevating the amount of success you’re likely to achieve.
Single-minded obsessiveness gets creative and business-types into what athletes call a flow state, where you lose the distractions of the outside world and even a bit of your sense of self, and entire an entire another state of consciousness on some sort of near-spiritual level that truly reveals the epitome of thought and creativity.
If you’re told that you need to be better with authority, you may stand at risk of being fired if you don’t comply in certain jobs. When it comes to entrepreneurship, however, the ability to be your own boss, question authority and not blindly follow it, and examine the rules that may need bending or changing in order to enter a new realm of business and success. Especially in our society, we favor the lone creative genius, whether it be Shakespeare, Steve Jobs or Beyonce. We know that they aren’t entirely solitary, but they often get to their extremely elevated position because they question what others don’t, push the boundaries where others won’t, and take the bold step of being their own boss when others would rather follow.
This blog has already covered why you can make your introversion work for you as an entrepreneur, business-owner, and creative-type. Your deeply contemplative personality allows you to problem-solve by seriously considering options and avenues with minimal distraction and your quiet demeanor gives people an easier trust in you as a fair, level-headed leader. Your observational skills are also vital in many industries. You can find comrades who balance you out with the public speaking and networking thing, or you can work on those skills yourself. My advice is to ensure that you get as much alone time away from work so that you are well-stocked on your social energy when you need to be.
Over-confidence doesn’t always make you a lot of friends, but a high self-confidence is vital if you are an entrepreneur or innovator. You have to believe that you can do what you want to do, that your vision is achievable and pursue it with that confidence to make a strong start. In the age of startups and freelancing, a lot of your time starting out will be spent having to encourage and motivate yourself; you don’t want to be so arrogant that no one intends to work for you at all, but believing in yourself is vital to your success!
The inability to have a long-term relationship that lasts is not proof that you cannot be a successful person. Our society has an excessive emphasis on relationships and they aren’t for everyone. Additionally, most people will tell you that when you stop searching for one, when you focus on yourself and your life, a genuinely fulfilling relationship will come along. Something that is most attractive to people is someone who loves what they do, is passionate about it, and every aspect of their life. That being said, many of the most successful people have a long trail of short-lived relationships; these are not necessarily failures, though sometimes they are. Most of them are so focused on their true love, their creative or entrepreneurial pursuit. It goes back to that single-mindedness in a way; a successful relationship takes a level of obsessive, passion that also benefits your career pursuits. If relationships aren’t your priority, there’s nothing wrong with that; if you feel like they are something missing from your life, remember that filling your time with things you love and are passionate about is more likely to bring people into your life that you feel the same way about!
If you’re a visual artist or a writer and people are constantly tell you that your style is weird, but you believe in it, there’s an excellent chance you can find other individuals who believe in it, too. If it makes you happy, if it stimulates you, if you enjoy it, it’s probably worth putting your time into. In an age when most ideas are derivative anyway, the ability to bring your own twist to anything–whether it be painting or a coffee shop–means the capacity to stand out in the market and succeed! Embracing your flaws can sometimes be just the answer to success you’ve been looking for!