What’s Wrong With You? The Answer Could be the Key to Your Success

As an employee you may get what you perceive as a lot of negative feedback; that criticism may tell you what doesn’t work for certain niche jobs, but it doesn’t have to dictate your entire personality. It also doesn’t have to mean that you can’t succeed despite those “flaws.”

Single-mindedness is often billed in customer service jobs as an inability to multitask. You may also be called obsessive. As some of the most successful creative geniuses or entrepreneurs come up with some of their best ideas because of obsessive thinking. Focusing on a problem continually until it is solved isn’t always the best way to get that solution, but if that’s how your mind works, then you can embrace it. If you’re single-minded about something, you’re going to work on it until it gets done, elevating the amount of success you’re likely to achieve.

Single-minded obsessiveness gets creative and business-types into what athletes call a flow state, where you lose the distractions of the outside world and even a bit of your sense of self, and entire an entire another state of consciousness on some sort of near-spiritual level that truly reveals the epitome of thought and creativity.

If you’re told that you need to be better with authority, you may stand at risk of being fired if you don’t comply in certain jobs. When it comes to entrepreneurship, however, the ability to be your own boss, question authority and not blindly follow it, and examine the rules that may need bending or changing in order to enter a new realm of business and success. Especially in our society, we favor the lone creative genius, whether it be Shakespeare, Steve Jobs or Beyonce. We know that they aren’t entirely solitary, but they often get to their extremely elevated position because they question what others don’t, push the boundaries where others won’t, and take the bold step of being their own boss when others would rather follow.
This blog has already covered why you can make your introversion work for you as an entrepreneur, business-owner, and creative-type. Your deeply contemplative personality allows you to problem-solve by seriously considering options and avenues with minimal distraction and your quiet demeanor gives people an easier trust in you as a fair, level-headed leader. Your observational skills are also vital in many industries. You can find comrades who balance you out with the public speaking and networking thing, or you can work on those skills yourself. My advice is to ensure that you get as much alone time away from work so that you are well-stocked on your social energy when you need to be.

Over-confidence doesn’t always make you a lot of friends, but a high self-confidence is vital if you are an entrepreneur or innovator. You have to believe that you can do what you want to do, that your vision is achievable and pursue it with that confidence to make a strong start. In the age of startups and freelancing, a lot of your time starting out will be spent having to encourage and motivate yourself; you don’t want to be so arrogant that no one intends to work for you at all, but believing in yourself is vital to your success!

The inability to have a long-term relationship that lasts is not proof that you cannot be a successful person. Our society has an excessive emphasis on relationships and they aren’t for everyone. Additionally, most people will tell you that when you stop searching for one, when you focus on yourself and your life, a genuinely fulfilling relationship will come along. Something that is most attractive to people is someone who loves what they do, is passionate about it, and every aspect of their life. That being said, many of the most successful people have a long trail of short-lived relationships; these are not necessarily failures, though sometimes they are. Most of them are so focused on their true love, their creative or entrepreneurial pursuit. It goes back to that single-mindedness in a way; a successful relationship takes a level of obsessive, passion that also benefits your career pursuits. If relationships aren’t your priority, there’s nothing wrong with that; if you feel like they are something missing from your life, remember that filling your time with things you love and are passionate about is more likely to bring people into your life that you feel the same way about!

If you’re a visual artist or a writer and people are constantly tell you that your style is weird, but you believe in it, there’s an excellent chance you can find other individuals who believe in it, too. If it makes you happy, if it stimulates you, if you enjoy it, it’s probably worth putting your time into. In an age when most ideas are derivative anyway, the ability to bring your own twist to anything–whether it be painting or a coffee shop–means the capacity to stand out in the market and succeed! Embracing your flaws can sometimes be just the answer to success you’ve been looking for!



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  1. I think that success depends on the person. You should get to know yourself, and know what you do best and follow that. The rest comes along the way. Main thing is loving what you do, and doing what you love 🙂

  2. An eye opener article and it hit me hard!! This article is very true. Though, at the back of my mind there are people who is just so self centered often times neglect the people that cares for them. At times you would also like to consider putting yourself in their shoes so that you can understand them well. People are all uniquely created and there are only few good people who would understand you. Be Happy and Live Life to the Fullest!

  3. very useful article! I asked myself this question many times what’s wrong with me?! figuring the answer was literally the key to my success, I always try to change my bad habits and strengthen my weakness points to be on the right road, that leads to success.

  4. I really liked this article. I think it shows that although there are many different types of people, there is always a place for them where they can flourish. Personally. I’m introverted and single-minded obsessive. I cannot rest until a job is done. This often leads to me wearing myself out at home because I’m always finding new chores for myself. It worked out well in a professional environment though, as I always was able to focus on the task at hand more than the other employees.

  5. I find myself to be a single minded and obsessive worker, apparently too much so. At work I get tagged with names like lazy because I have a more difficult time keeping up with the pace of everything happening around me, just because I become so focused that multitasking becomes nearly impossible. I’m proud of the fact that I can focus to a point that when my work is done, It’s done to a point of perfection. But in the food service industry where I work, multitasking is favorable and I find myself coming up short as a result. It’s discouraging when you feel like your giving it your best and no-one else can see it, telling you that you need to get things done faster. Slow and methodical, It’s the way I am, and It’s my fundamental flaw. I hope someday to end up in a line of work that favors quality over speed, that’s where I will excel.

    • I worked with someone like that once. I remember that you could always count on them to get the job done, and done well. However, most people didn’t appreciate their method of working, due to the fast-paced environment. The person was very underappreciated and eventually quit because of it.

    • Hi, Isaiah.
      I’m sad to hear that you’re having work difficulties due to your personality. However, I think it should be put up that almost every employer will prefer quality over speed, but all employers prefer quality AND speed. If your co-worker can do an output similar to yours in a matter of minutes, it is very obvious that the employer will favor that co-worker. This is because, in business set-ups, most employers will opt for the most economic choice.

      I hope that this article did its job in opening your eyes to help you develop that trait. Single-minded/obsessive workers are not very economic and competitive which make them unfavorable to most employers.

      Best of luck to your career.

  6. This is really important advice! A lot of employees often feel very degraded when they’re given negative feedback. I think it’s high-time most employees treat this kind of feedback as constructive criticism– especially when it’s given in a considerate matter.

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